Tagged well being

What’s The Point?

What’s the Point? What’s the point of losing weight ... of being your right shape … of being slender & lean? What’s the purpose? To fit your skinny jeans, to parade that little black dress, to wear what you want when you want? Sure, that’s fun – no denying the ego-boost – but is that really ‘the point’?

Perhaps it’s to not be sick, ashamed or depressed anymore? Mmm, that’s definitely desirable, too. Chronic lethargy and lingering sickness & self loathing sucks – not much of a life feeling lousy. But, further than that, we have to ask   “Why does extra weight & overeating make us ashamed and depressed?”

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Instead we ask, “Why can’t I just live a fulfilled and peaceful life at any weight?” Well, you can … if you can!  But most people can’t. Most people are miserable; mistrusting and disappointed in themselves because numbing themselves with food means they’re not showing up to life … for life.

As with any addiction or debilitating habit, overloading yourself with overeating is an ‘easy out’ of engagement in other pursuits. Not living your best life, denying yourself a ‘sorted’ stimulating satisfying life, avoiding your potential … feels rotten. Food fixation, eating trauma & excess weight is a barrier to being present and contributing your gifts, talents, energy and attention to life.  That is the purpose of losing weight and finding a way of peace with food and with your body. To be more fully who you can be … could be … are meant to be. Don’t let past patterns determine your present experience or your future life: find a way that works. That is the point. Why Wait?

Image, identity and who formed me?

Gaunt is not healthy. Overweight is not Wrong. How I look does not determine my worth. Food fixation or phobia is not a good use of a life.

There’s a glaring injustice going on that we accept as the norm – but that doesn’t make it “normal”.9-before-you-give-up

Men are taught to apologise for their weaknesses – we women are taught to apologise for our strength.

And what is the stick we use to beat ourselves with? The number of kilos we weigh, the size of clothes that we wear,  the glaring contrast between ourselves and the airbrushed or anorexic figures we are told to desire as our own or what we think other people expect of us.  Our own distorted thinking hounds us.

We are being controlled, by the undercurrent of society that says “The way you look on the outside reflects how valuable, worthy, how wanted you are as a person.”

When women awaken to the truth they realise they’re are trapped in our own invisible matrix.

Q: When did the ideal qualities of a woman take a turn into valuing appearance above all other qualities … when did the emphasis change from healthy, capable and curvy – to frail, waif-like and skinny? (Courtesy Bianca)

I choose.  You choose.

It’s not about ‘perfection’ it’s about freedom from compulsion. It’s about your peace. It’s about well-being. Why wait?