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Will WILLPOWER work when I need it?

With 119 food related decisions a day – how are you doing?

With all the myriad decisions that you have to make all day everyday about everything – how are you doing?

Where are when you’re planning dinner – in traffic? hungry on the bus? dealing with kids? thinking about how you are going to fit exercise in? What’s the likelihood of settling on a wise, wholesome satisfying menu? What about when you’re actually making the meal and you’re hungry, tired, frustrated – what’s the likelihood of making a healthy, hearty, tasty choice?

Willpower works to a point … but will it work reliably when you need it? Leap the ‘willpower gap’ with prior planning, helpful habits and other actions that nourish you in other ways. Why battle, what you can’t win? Time to surrender to what works. Discover simple strategies that take the dilemma out of food, eating and being the right weight. Why Wait? 

 

 

 

 

 

BLOG by Bianca: Is the Body Acceptance Movement just excusing Bad Behaviour?

I’ve noticed a real trend of women bucking the stereotypes that tell us we have to look or behave a certain way in order to be a “good person”. In this age of social media – never have women’s many roles been under so much scrutiny as well as so much support. I wonder , how much of this “I love me for me” is actually just a cover up for the real feelings of ineptitude, anxiety and unworthiness that many women and mothers feel in today’s society? 

I’m a weight loss mindset coach, I’m not a relationship or parenting coach, but the way you do one thing is the way you’re going to do other things too right? For so many of my clients, when they address the chaos that’s happening in their environment,

• in their personal self care
• with their time management
• and in their significant relationships

– they actually improve their health, their quality of life and lose weight as a by-product of that. So if you’d like to understand a little more about the type of Self Awareness that is present in every client success story profiled on Bianca’s website, here’s her full blog

Work with Bianca or work with us … whatever works for you! Why Wait?

Why is it that even when we know we’ve had enough, we keep eating?

Why is it that reason & logic don’t persuade us or hold us to a sensible moderate relationship to food? Why is it that we override or ignore our signals to stop eating when we are aware of them … or worse still, we can’t even detect the signals and feel sure that we just aren’t satisfied yet. That more is necessary or something else is needed to achieve the satiety we are searching for.

It’s a humiliating dance of self deception – pretending not to see, not to notice, not to be concerned about our excessive consumption. It’s fraught with sadness & defeat …and yet we perpetuate the habit over & over & over at every meal or every eating incident. Certain that if we can just finally find the thing or the magical volume that will fulfill us, then we can stop and feel complete.

We are wired to find food & eat it for survival.  But in a world of plenty beset by denatured drug food, our biochemistry has gone haywire. Calming the nervous system enough to eat enough … and only enough … when our body truly needs it, is possible. Why struggle unnecessarily? Why struggle so inevitably and endlessly? Find out how to have an easy enduring freedom around food. Why Wait?

 

I have decided I definitely don’t like hunger.  I did once. Once upon a time that edgy, gnawing, inner churning felt like a challenge – a sort of wild drive – a battle I would pledge to win. My strength of character against the petty whining demands of this shell I felt confined in – my body.

But now I am happy … grateful … in awed to dwell here – in my body. And I don’t like it being subjected to punitive pain.

Now hunger, unnecessary hunger, feels like an abuse – like a warming sign – a screaming urgent fire siren. And I panic; concerned to mitigate the damage I think what must be happening in every moment that I stay hungry – in every minute that the hunger stays unsatisfied.  I imagine molecules being destroyed, tissue being impaired, organs harmed, hormones depleted and faculties lost. I rally, vigilant to the cries and anguish of my distressed and dependent organism.

I have decided I don’t like to be distressed; not any more. Calm is the new cool. Deprived is dead.

I am happy to feed my body now … wisely, lusciously, regularly.  I am happy to support and reward and super charge my body with love and good food – to quell the clamouring, to curb the need that rises and falls with each rich and rewarding eating episode. I am happy to pander thoughtfully and diligently to the needs of the flesh – this phenomenal frame I call ‘home’.  I am happy.

Why wait to be happy in your own well fed, well nourished, well cared for body?  

 

In the words of Michelle Leath (of Peaceful Relationship with Food) … often the way you relate to food is a reflection of the way we relate to life.  So … what’s gets in your way of truly nourishing yourself? Is it that you “don’t have enough time,” or you have “too much on your plate” and you have to attend to everyone else’s needs first?  Maybe it’s an old pattern that says “you don’t deserve to eat this or that” and leaves you feeling painfully deprived, maybe even to the point where you finally cave in and eat everything in sight in an act of rebellion. These are some of the most common tensions I see in women who struggle with food … and you know what it reduces down to?

Malnourishment. When you don’t set healthy boundaries and create enough time and space to nourish yourself, you feel deprived … drained … hungry at a deep (soul) level. And when you feel this void-hungry it’s predictable that you’ll reach for food in an attempt to fill up. But you know that doesn’t work in the end, because it’s not food that you are really hungry for!

Personal Power = Metabolic Power. What this means is that when you give your power away through over-giving, over-scheduling, denying yourself adequate rest, replenishment and nourishment, or any other form of power-leakage (think soul-draining job or relationships) the result is physiologic stress to your system which, over time, literally runs your metabolism into the ground and drives you to overeat.

The good news is when you take back your power in ANY life situation, when you remember you are valuable, you feel good. You relax. And that ignites your full healthy metabolism, digestion and even your nutrient absorption! All from simply putting yourself first for a change… pretty cool, huh?

And that’s something you can do right now by simply claiming some attention for yourself. You can change mindsets that not longer serve you right now. Why Wait?

It’s not about size – zero or any other. It’s about being the right size for you.

It’s about sensible sustenance, steady fat loss (that doesn’t compromise your vital functions & vital organs) and sustaining a set weight that suits you. It’s about health … being truly well, in every moment of every day in every conceivable way.

It’s not about conforming to some standardised cookie cutter metric. It’s about confidence: being confident as you are … even as you evolve.

I’m not going to post disturbing pictures of emaciated models or minus size individuals. Perspective lost, trust in self nurturing lost, all hope of self care lost. The physical agony and psychological anguish they must endure in this prolonged denial of the basic human need for nourishment … is in a word: abuse.

We all know that once muscle is lost, the game is lost.

Metabolic Strength & Personal Resilience is the NEW Magnetism.  Be Empowered. Why Wait?